Okay I definitely need to come up with some creative titles, but here we go..
So as I have stated before both of my twins have Autism. They are considered to be higher functioning. I am thankful for this, but at the same time.. we have our share of battles.
Our current struggle has been getting them to make friends, interact appropriately, and not sending their peers running for the hills.
Usually with Zion he seems to be able to “manage” on his own. I may have to interject here and there. However when he’s not in the mood, “he’s not in the mood!”
Ziah, on the other hand still needs serious help when it comes to appropriately making friends. They both can be inappropriate and don’t know when too much is… TOO MUCH! We’re working on it!
So this past week Zion had indoor recess at school. As soon as he got in the car, he said his famous words, “I’m not in the mood, don’t talk to me,”-
I asked him what was wrong. He stated that he didn’t have a good day. He was bored at recess. He didn’t have anyone to play with. I asked if he tried to play with others. He stated that he asked others if he could watch what they were doing. He said, they said no in a “mean way.”
Now as a Mom it’s my job to protect and advocate for them, right? Right. However sometimes I struggle with knowing when it’s okay to jump in and when it’s not okay, especially since some of his discernment is knocked out by Autism playing a role in all of this.
So then he said that he went back to his desk and put his head down, AND that he wasn’t supposed to go to school and to make friends. I asked why not. He said that “Dad said I am to go to school and learn, not make friends. I am to go to school to be smart. So I go to school and pay attention so I can be smart.”
While I can admire this from an educational stand point, he needs to implement appropriate social skills! He NEEDS friends! So I tried to break it down with what Dad “really meant”… but NOOOOOOOO. He has it stuck in his head that he cannot go to school to make friends because he goes to only learn.
Lesson in all of this— We forget sometimes that kids with Autism take things literally and sometimes it can be hard to undo what you said… it usually results into an argument or (non)verbal breakdown . Let’s just say we had a little bit of both and I just walked away.