How To Deal With Guilt As A Mom


It's easy to get Mom Guilt. We always feel we are not doing enough for the kids, husband, etc. I have a solution on how to deal with guilt as a Mom! Click through to read my thoughts on Mom Guilt

Do you ever wonder how to deal with guilt as a mom?  We all feel it.  We rarely admit it.  Guilt is one of the all-consuming emotions that seems to come with giving birth.  Whether you work at home, work outside the home, or are a stay at home mom who considers their work to be raising their children – it is a frustrating part of motherhood. Over the years, I’ve discovered that taking care of me is far more important than living in guilt.

 

It's easy to get Mom Guilt. We always feel we are not doing enough for the kids, husband, etc. I have a solution on how to deal with guilt as a Mom! Click through to read my thoughts on Mom Guilt

How To Deal With Guilt As A Mom

Do you ever guilty?

Like guilty when you sneak into your closet to stuff a chocolate candy bar down your throat?

Guilty when you take too much time at Target?

Or guilty when you sneak out the house to get a much needed and overdue pedicure?

How about when you try to read a book by one of your favorite authors, and you can see the mounting piles of laundry coughing for your attention?

It's easy to get Mom Guilt. We always feel we are not doing enough for the kids, husband, etc. I have a solution on how to deal with guilt as a Mom! Click through to read my thoughts on Mom Guilt

 

And then there’s the moment you spend $6 bucks on a latte at Starbucks instead of giving it to your child for the bookfair? {true story!}

Not guilty yet?

How about when you lock yourself in the bathroom to take a shower for twenty minutes, and you can hear everyone pounding on the door but you turn the volume of the radio up even higher?

And let’s not forget about the pint of Ben and Jerry’s Chunky Monkey ice-cream you put in the grocery cart, only to eat the whole thing when you got home.

Yes, these are all moments when we have probably felt guilty about doing in our past or current lives as Moms.

But guess what?

THAT’S OKAY!!! You’re supposed to have those moments to do those VERY things!

However, we take on these guilt-conscience moments that we are supposed to always be ON as moms.

Not so.  In fact, how to deal with guilt as a mom is all about understanding that you aren’t just a mom.  You are a woman that deserves and needs these breaks.

We need those down moments.

We need moments just to be ourselves.

To eat cartons of ice-cream when no one is looking. Heck, even when they ARE looking.

We are entitled to take bubble baths, long showers, walks in the park and naps.

We are entitled to go get pampered. Go on a shopping spree.

We are entitled to moments ALONE. Without the husband, without the kids, the dog, the cat, without life.

Yes, even life. Sometimes we forget to shut it all off. We are so busy as moms, wives, sisters, caregivers, daughters, employers, employees, and on and on.

You are entitled to LET go and just be YOU!

It's easy to get Mom Guilt. We always feel we are not doing enough for the kids, husband, etc. I have a solution on how to deal with guilt as a Mom! Click through to read my thoughts on Mom Guilt

You are entitled to take a shopping trip to Target for three or four hours. I’m sure you’re family will send a search party, but take the time to just enjoy you.

We are better Moms when we have time for ourselves.

We are better wives when we have our down time.

We are better friends, sisters, daughters, lovers, employees, etc when we have our time to exhale.

When we have time for our brains to unwind and just focus on us, we come back charged and rejuvenated.

We are even entitled to take trips by ourselves. I know this one might be a stretch but try it. Start with a night away, then a weekend away, until you can get up to a week away. {be sure to read my tips on things Moms do before going on vacation!}

And don’t even give me that line of, “Oh, I can’t leave my kids, I will miss them!”

Yes, we love our kids, but YOU need a break from them. This helps you be a BETTER mom.

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I roll my eyes at Moms who say they couldn’t imagine EVER being separated from their kids. Cry me a river and sink it (lol).

How to deal with guilt?  Ignore guilt and focus on how much taking care of yourself will make you a better mom in the long run.

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It's easy to get Mom Guilt. We always feel we are not doing enough for the kids, husband, etc. I have a solution on how to deal with guilt as a Mom! Click through to read my thoughts on Mom Guilt

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6 Comments

  1. September 19, 2016
    Reply

    After six kids I still have those guilty feelings but I quickly overcome them when someone breaks out into a tantrum! lol We all needs break-in order to properly care for others.

  2. September 19, 2016
    Reply

    such a great read! should be printed and taped to our heads! We need to take this advice and be kind to ourselves! Thank you for this reminder!

  3. September 20, 2016
    Reply

    I’ve always felt guilty when I had to leave my son to work or do anything, but we had so many great moments together, they far surpass my guilt!

  4. Brianne
    September 21, 2016
    Reply

    This is the story of my life. Our new back to school schedule has been drowning by Tuesday morning. Yet I don’t want the help because I want to be there for them. I so need a break and think I will try to get one this weekend!

  5. Nicole Escat
    September 24, 2016
    Reply

    Motherhood is a never-ending guilt-feeling! I hope that I can overcome the guilt especially when I get mad on my son.

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