Being a new parent can be overwhelming. You’ve read all the baby books and blogs, but still feel like you’re missing something. I’m sharing some parenting truths I’ve learned along the way, things you won’t find in a baby book. Read on to discover 12 things they don’t tell new parents before having a baby in this sponsored post by Protective.
12 Things They Don’t Tell New Parents Before Having A Baby
So, you just had a baby.
Well, congratulations. You can’t wait to dress your baby in cute dresses with matching shoes, the perfect little suit, and all of the accessories to match, right?
I bet you can’t wait to post adorable photos all over social media of your munchkin. I mean, that’s what everyone else does. Social media for parents can be intimidating at times. You see the moms with their perfect post-baby photos, their little ones all dolled up and behaving perfectly, and their life is always together.
Yes, people make parenting seem so easy.
But let’s be real. If you’ve been down this road once or twice, we all know parenting is a LOT of work.
And if you’re a new parent, you spend countless hours reading books, searching parenting websites, going to parenting groups, and on and on, to figure out HOW TO BE A PARENT?
Well, I hate to break it to ya… but most of that stuff is a waste of time.
Oh, don’t get me wrong. You can learn a LOT from other parents, parenting blogs, and books on the subject. Yes, you can learn a lot. And a lot of the basic parenting rules will apply.
But let me tell you the point blank truth. Each child is different. I have three, and they are ALL different. I also parent them differently. Oh yes, basic rules about being respectful, don’t hit your brother, stop picking up food off the floor apply, but when it comes to loving them and nurturing them, I have to go about it three different ways. Chances are you won’t find that piece of information in a book or on a blog. It comes from within. Your parenting instincts will kick in, and you’ll figure it out as you go along.
I lost it a little bit when they told me it was twins!
Chances are you won’t find that piece of information in a book or on a blog. It comes from within. Your parenting instincts will kick in, and you’ll figure it out as you go along, but if you still feel like you aren’t sure, there are some great options to help. If your parenting instincts don’t kick in right away to save the day, what can you do? So many times the best information comes from friends and family, and recently through word of mouth, I found out about Protective’s Learning Center. It is just what you may be looking for to get you through the tough days ahead.
At times we like to block out some of the potentially bad aspects of life and living and live day to day with an unrealistic expectation when it comes to our families. But as we all know, unfortunate life events happen to everyone. So, doesn’t it make sense to learn as much about protecting your family in the good times and the bad?
In the spirit of keeping my parenting truths 100% real with you, keep these helpful tips in mind:
- Plan for mistakes, because you will make a LOT of them.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Seriously, do not sweat the small stuff. Care about things that matter. If they eat something off the floor, it’s not going to kill them. The Holderness Family agreed with this parenting tip and talked about it in their hilarious parenting video.
- Invest time into them. Babies and little children grow fast. If you blink, you will miss something important.
- Buy clothes you don’t care about getting dirty hands, poop stains, and spit-up all over.
- And if you have boys, learn how to quickly change a diaper in a matter of seconds. Trust me on this one, just trust me. The Holderness Family gives you tips on how to deal with this in their video.
- Communicate with your partner. You both need to spend time with your new bundle of joy, but don’t forget to talk to each other, including finding time for a date night.
- The dishes can wait. Nap when they nap. My twins came first. Yup, I hit the parenting track hard. But I learned a lot along the way, including to enjoy those quiet times when they were napping.
- Come up with a system or organizational method that works for you and your family.
- Use resources when applicable. Although we will trust our gut more than what we read on a website, having a plethora of parenting resources are important. Protective’s Learning Center is full of helpful parenting articles to give you the confidence you need to continue on parenting in the right direction.
- Don’t buy into the hype that you need every single baby essential. You don’t. I ended up returning my diaper genie because it was a waste of energy and time. First, you change the baby. Then you put the dirty diaper into the genie. Once it’s filled, you have to STILL empty the diaper genie. Seriously, who has time for THAT? I used grocery bags. Put the dirty diaper in a grocery bag. Because of the horrendous smell, the plastic bag would go immediately into the dumpster. (Note: I didn’t have time to go outside and walk each bag to the dumpster ten times per day. I would leave them right outside the door, and my husband would take care of it as soon as he came home from work. )
- Find your tribe. This may take a while to happen, but find other moms who you can vibe with, and also be a great playdate partner. Talking to other parents was a great outlet for me. We spent time encouraging each other, as well as swapping tips. I’ve received a plethora of parenting tips over the years; some worked, some did not. Regardless, when you’re having a moment of, “I-can’t-do-this-no-more,” your tribe will be there to uplift you with encouraging words, drinks, and desserts.
- Plan. This is important. Having a financial plan before your baby is born is important. Think about starting a college or savings fund for them as soon as they are born. Plan for unexpected financial situations to pop up. You can find tips in the Learning Center on how to plan for those moments. (link to appropriate article)
It does take a village to raise a child. You, your partner, parents, school teacher, and even the community your child grows up in. At the end of the day, regardless of how you parent, the important thing is to show up, be present every day, and love your child.
I was pleasantly surprised that the Learning Center website had lots of good information I can still use and apply even now that my boys aren’t babies anymore. It just goes to show that every day is an opportunity to learn something new and to grow as a parent, because regardless how old your children are you never stop being a parent. Be sure to check out the Learning Center for more 101 parenting tips, and view The Holderness Family’s New Parent Orientation video.
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