On Vacation? Don’t Forget To Pack Your Love Life. Yeah, I Said It
A family vacation should be a lot of things, right? Not only should it be quality time spent away from the daily grind but it should also be fun, relaxing and valuable time spent reconnecting not just with the kids, but with your most significant other too. So, when you’re packing for a family vacation bringing along your love life is just as important as sunscreen and a first-aid kit. “Impossible!” you might say, and I counter with, no not impossible at all. You just may have to get creative and look for opportunities where they exist. It’s important that The Three Letter Word, Definitely Pack It On Vacation is on your list of things to do!
I mean, come on people you’re on vacation. Sex is included. However, if you have kids or are staying with friends or family the logistics may get a little dicey. So, when trying to fit some “snooky” time into your morning, noon, night and already hectic vacation schedule you gotta think outside the box. Capiche?
The Three Letter Word, Definitely Pack It On Vacation
To hotel or not hotel that is the question
Staying in a regular hotel with your kids can be somewhat awkward as is, and with the close quarters, there’s little room for privacy. Basically, it is a given everyone’s (kids included) comfort zones will be challenged. And when it comes to orchestrating a lil’ bump-n-grind who wants to keep looking over at the other bed to make sure the kids are still sleeping? Creepsville! Most definitely not I and I bet you don’t either.
This is why regular hotel rooms seldom work for us. Our boys are currently 12, 12, and 9. The only time we can do a regular hotel room is if we’re only staying a night or two. If we are staying longer, then we book a resort, vacation home, condo, or something similar. However, there are hotels with spacious suites and a separated space: like kid suites or a sitting room/bedroom combo with a sofa bed. This works because it provides the necessary privacy for whatever two consenting parents decide and have the energy to do.
But let’s say you have limited options. Or you decide for financial reasons to stay in traditional hotel accommodations for an unspecified allotment of time, but then the unexpected happens. The mood hits you: you’re looking at him and she’s looking at you and the natural progression caused by a hormonal shift needs to happen, like now. But, the kids are underfoot forcing you both to contain the percolating estrogen and bubbling testosterone. And like the responsible parents that you are those passionate flames get pushed aside or extinguished altogether. Bummer. Sigh. Balderdash. Here are a few solutions:
Use The Bathroom
The bathroom? Yes. Big things can happen in this little space. And when the two of you take a shower together you’re taking care of physical needs and conserving water. Win and win in my book. Note: Even if you are not actually taking a shower make sure to keep the water running or use your smart phone to play music to mask any animalistic noises which may result from such fits of passion play in the loo. Also, make doubly-sure to lock the door, we don’t want any little ones wandering in while your howling at the moon.
Say no to drugs, but melatonin is okay
Pack melatonin. If you do plan to connect with your significant other in the other bed, then here’s an option. 1-2 hours before bedtime, round the kids up and give them each one. This will hopefully allow them to fall asleep a little faster and sleep soundly. I don’t usually give my kids melatonin on vacation, but if you’re desperate for some alone time and you want to make sure they stay sleep, this works! (Keep in mind melatonin is a natural sleep-inducing produced in our bodies and in some plants and there are two types: organic and synthetic, we prefer the organic variety. We’re not drugging the kids, people!)
The last resort, no literally
Staying in a resort is another excellent way to ensure you have an active love life while on vacation. Usually, you can score some great deals (especially if you’re willing to do a time-share presentation) or check out sites like resor.com or airnb.com for available discounts. Most resorts have 2-3 bedrooms. So depending on the size of your party, this will work perfectly for a family.
Also, staying on a resort property means you will have access to additional options, such as:
The Kids Club: Send the kids down to an on-site daycare area where they can hang out and fave fun and let someone else watch them for a while. Then head back to your room for some much-needed couples’ time and conjure up some “marital bliss.” Most resorts offer daycare as part of the package but check ahead of time to avoid additional out of pocket costs once you get there and decide to use such a service.
Look for a local sitter or use a service: head to sites like tripsandgiggles.com to get a list of sitters in and around your vacation location. You can also check out sites like care.com to find local sitters and also run a background check.
Use Friends or other couples: If you’re on a family trip with other couples, friends or siblings take turns watching the kids, so each couple gets some alone time.
I am a huge advocate for vacation homes because they offer the maximum privacy for the money. Not only do you have space, but it feels more home-like. Unlike the hotel suites or resorts, a vacation home gives you, even more, space and privacy. So if you like to get loud, you can feel free to howl at the moon and not have to worry about waking anyone up. Staying on properties like All Star Vacation Homes in Florida, and Suite Escapes in Anaheim has increased the chances of having some much-needed adult intimacy while on vacation. If you haven’t make sure to shop around and check out reviews on sites like tripadvisor.com and Travelocity.com.
But where will I find the time for “cuddling”?
I’m a Mom of three, and there are nights while on vacation that my man and I are both exhausted and not even thinking about doing anything. However, as I get older and figure out this thing called life, I have learned connecting and having an active sex life is as important as breathing. You don’t have to go at it like rabbits every night on vacation, but connecting on a passionate level is important while you’re enjoying your vacation too.
And sometimes, it helps relieve the stress and anxiety of an over active mind after dealing with the kids all day.
Proper planning prevents poor performance
When it comes to making sure the three-letter word actually happens, you may just have to plan it. I know it doesn’t sound romantic, but when you have kids, and you’re on vacation time is of the essence. Your planning starts at home.
When booking your lodging, you should keep your “where can I have sex” options open. How big is the hotel? How many rooms will this resort have? How many people in your party? How many nights are you staying? What type of activities will you be doing during the day? Do you have time for downtime? Date Night? Can I find a local sitter?
Exploring sites like HomeAway.com, Airnb.com, Resor.com and Hotels.com will help you find great discounts on resorts, vacation homes, and hotel suites.
If you’re going to use a local sitter, be sure to do a background check and set up a meeting via skype or facetime.
Regardless of where you wind up, do your best to find ways to connect with your significant other. Maybe sex doesn’t happen on the trip, but making out is less evasive and less effort but still fun. So live it up and enjoy!
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